God invited time.โŒš

In all our prayers, He does so.

So, trust His planning and wait patiently. Because time is invited.

And it shows up to all of His invitations.

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You Will Be Chosen (Learning to Clap For the Winner During Times of Rejection)

In my lifetime, I have lost count of the number of times that I was not chosen for areas that I have expressed my desire and displayed my efforts to be chosen. This had happened in the areas of my career, personal life, dating and even in friendship, in small and big decisions of others that resulted to a feeling of rejection.

While the world claps for the one that was chosen, there is always someone else from the opposite side of the coin, the one that was not chosen.

While, this happens, there is a big temptation to ask “Why not me?”

Just like any chemical compound where each has it’s own identity, no one is an exact replica of one person.

Each one of us is uniquely different from another person and if a person was chosen for a role and there is no other person like that person, the question “Why not me?” is actually invalid.

But if this temptation to ask “Why not me?” occurs, why not change that question with “Why not now?”

Because the question “Why not now?” is more of an active question than a paralysing question.

As I grow to be more “adultly” each year, I have realized that time is an ingredient of success that is learned by natural process. By considering time in the process of selection and success, preparation becomes crucial. I have read the book “How Luck Happens” and my main take away point in that is Luck happens to the the prepared and focused and preparation and focus is equivalent to time.

“Why not now?” means you need to know a lot more. “Why not now?” means you have to practise more. “Why not now?” means you have to know more of yourself. “Why not now?” means you have to know more about you dreams or skills… Or whatever it takes.

For where I am now in my life and what I have seen and transpired to people around me, success, fulfillment of dreams happens not based on the question “Why not me?” but “Why not now?”

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The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in Him, and He helps me.

Psalm 28:7

Keep on rowing, knowing that it is a privilege to work with God – and a blessing to be helped by Him – Darlene Sala.

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Thank you, profoundly.

Love and Beauty,

B

(First of Two Parts)
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When God said “Fear not for I am with you, Do not be dismayed for I am Your God, I am holding You with my victorious right hand” He is referring for us to be courageous, to be strong. Because there will be difficulties, we are living in a fallen world. However, we have a Helper and in that strength, we will find joy!

Our hurts, rejections and failures will only make sense if we learn from them.

The mercy of God will come through lessons, too. He counsels us with His gentle staff.

Otherwise, these will not serve us good and we will miss living life to the fullest if we don’t risk with possibilities of pain, rejections and failures. Generally, I call them heartbreak.

Today, I want to recall and identify lessons I gained from ex – managers, ex-group leaders, ex – household members, ex – interviewers, ex – parish priests and ex – strangers and maybe, ex – crushes, ex – service partners and ex – boyfriend (Yes, he is only one).

10. ๐Ÿ’– It was my last round of interview and I can feel so closed to signing the job offer. Then, my current boss called me and spent time at the phone. In the end, I came late. I did not get the job offer.

Lesson, learn to say “no” right away if the number one priority is compromised.

9. ๐Ÿ’– Set a daily priority. Huge priorities in life can be overwhelming so, set daily priorities.

8. ๐Ÿ’– Stick to your defined priorities. At all cost.

7. ๐Ÿ’– I have been hearing, “He is paasa. ” (He makes girls build false – hopes around him.)

Lesson: Don’t ignore. There is, somehow, a truth in it.

6. ๐Ÿ’– Sisters have in their DNA to be pursued. They have an innate craving for it. A lady might say, I’m from the newest generation where men and women can do the same thing. Sister, that’s not true. You might do the pursuing now, but sooner or later, doubt will be knocking at the door. You will DEMAND, for an affirmation.

Lesson: Sister, allow your DNA to speak, be pursued. Be someone worth the pursuit.

5. ๐Ÿ’– Cheaters have signs. Do not ignore the first time the sign appears.

4. ๐Ÿ’– It takes character to say “I am sorry.” to someone who says to you “I got hurt by your words.” For instances like these, no explanation is needed why the other person got hurt. The truth that the other person got hurt then, “sorry” is much needed from the offender.

3. ๐Ÿ’– If cheaters have signs all the more the MAN who is worthy of your time, your attention, your care, your love and your trust. The signs will be set by your mind with your heart.

2. ๐Ÿ’– The one who wins never quits. The one who quits never win. It will only take time and your being to reach your dream.
Always remember that even God did not quit when Adam, His first man fell into disobedience in the Garden of Eve. He has to plan and thereby, incorporating “TIME” to fulfill it.

1. ๐Ÿ’– If you see him/her with someone new, if the unexpected sighting hurts, in spirit and in truth, then, comfort your heart. Avoid them. Pray for them.

It is my hope and in my prayers that you find lessons from your ex-periences today.

I will leave a song for you today.

๐ŸŽถThe steadfast love of the Lord never ceases. His mercy has never come to an end. They are new every morning. New every morning. Great is Thy faithfulness. ๐ŸŽถ

For all of these O Lord, I praise You and I thank You. Let me find wisdom in my experiences. Amen.

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Thank you for sharing your time. It is truly appreciated.

While I wait for my rescheduled flight (I’m so used to these kind of changes every Christmas flight that I forgot how to complain and just now, I smiled and teasingly told the neatly hair-tied airline staff, “Don’t I get to have at least a free burger for this?”) I remembered one new year’s eve, a neighbor who was a palm reading enthusiast told me her prediction. I was a little girl then and not in school that I don’t know how to write even my own name yet. She was so amazed, I guess, that after she got my palm, she called my Mama. “Mrs Linda, something is with your child.” Before Mama arrived, our neighbor told me a revelation and those words were placed in my young mind and spoken straight to my believing heart, “Nene, great things are found in your palm. You will constantly fly and you will be victorious! Big stars and great – sized airplanes are written in your palms. ”
I hardly remember our neighbor’s name but those big words were spoken straight to my young believing heart from that time until now. “Great things are found in your palms.”
I don’t believe in palm reading but I believe that there is a great future for each one of us, that big stars are written in our names and humongous airplanes are drawn in our palm because we can soar high. We are able. We are free. Because, the great future ahead of us was planned right even before we existed, as a privilege.

As 2018 bids farewell, may we remember every person whether stranger, family, friend, colleague, leader or any human being who believes in our capacity to fulfill our dreams, to achieve and to soar.

As 2018 comes to a close, I thank the Lord for the gift of the combination of my passport and SG residency, the gift of courage for all my past hurdles in school, my guiding parents and all teachers who all believed, maybe, not even in my talents but only because the lines my palm tell them to believe in me.

Dear Lord, we claim today Your big and great plans for us from Your Mighty Big hands. Please help us fulfill those. Amen.

#GodhasbeengoodToMe
#tearyeyed
#thankyoufamily

Dear Sis B,
Shall I Date A Jobless Bachelor?

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Dear Sister,

May the peace of Christ be with you.

The fact that you are asking me this question tells me that you have second thoughts of seeing or spending time with this guy and financial means is something essential to you. I take your concern with high regard and deep respect. Since we believe that the husband and father is the main financial provider, they must have means to be source of income, ideally.

However, we now live in the age where wife and mothers of the family have full time works and share the financial obligation of the family with the husband or father.

As dating means preparation for the future family and the one you are dating takes the frame of a future spouse, may I now ask you, “What are your dreams and prayers for your future family?”

Should the Lord allow me to be married, I don’t wish to work for another employer and I wish to stay at home and build a source of income from home, an endeavour that would come only secondary to my household obligations. This means that I am counting and praying that in my future plans, the husband is the main provider. I think that is the reason why I have never dated a jobless guy. I never dated when I was still in school.

However, I don’t consider, too, that joblessness is the ultimate criteria for a bachelor NOT to be considered a “qualified” future spouse.

Here are few points you can consider:
1. Does he plan for his good future?

2. Does he act and persevere on his plans?

3. Do you agree on his plans?

Before you respond, please do carefully and prayerfully seek an answer. Ask him with exact words revealing to him your purpose. Please do not be scared to ask and ask with purity of heart. Based on married friends’ stories , this kind of questions encouraged a man with pure and noble intentions to be more intentional in building his finances and not scare him off away from getting himself committed. Again gentleness will send our purpose across.

Gentleness. Girl, It Looks Sassy On You

It is always something I tell to myself and female friends that at one point or two of courtship and even dating period that ladies should continue to be seeking answer and act like you an HR recruiter. After all, you are recruiting a lifetime legal partner.

I believe that when we pray for a spouse with courage (faith), confidence (hope) and God (love) then, we will be led to the right man who will love us, protect us and lead us to our Lord.

God bless.

Love and Beauty,
B

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I don’t usually post photos of foods specially big – budgetted meals. But, I want to remember this event and this place with these served foods.

Fine Foods and Love๐Ÿ’–

I have never seen such a big turkey stuffed with finest herbs and leaves that the moment I entered into the dining area I was greeted with scent that left me mouth – watering and really hungry.

I have never seen a ham as big as a football. It looked so expensive that I was so hesitant to cut it.
And, when I tasted it I almost forgot my name. It was heavenly.
Can a ham be not sweet?
I guess everything back home is sweet, not only spaghetti.

Delightful foods are always served here at Meyer Road.
Known to be a place for rich
and influential to many.
At the contrary, for me,
this is a humble abode
where foods are always warm,
prepared out of deep love.๐Ÿ’–