My Writings

Yesterday, the gospel was about The Beatitudes spoken by Jesus Himself. The Beatitudes has gripped my heart in many ways and in many years that caused me to stop, capture my heart and caused me to change, simply because to me, it means sacrifices and dying to oneself.

As I encountered The Beautitudes yesterday, again, I asked the Holy Spirit to place it in my single, searching and (hopefully soon) dating life. This morning, while cooking for lunch of my niece, the beautiful word went to heart as the aroma of my simple dish comes to life. Here are my reflections out from my own experiences and learnings:

1. A trusting heart is a patient heart.
So, develop faith to learn to trust and trust results to patience. And patience is a fertile soil for a loving relationship.
2. Gentle words come from a gentle spirit and a gentle spirit does not control but leads.
I am smiling while a write this, while I remember all men who are gentle and lead. Gentleness leads but wickedness confuses.
3. A non-assuming heart is a humble heart. When sisters don’t give – in to the lure to create presumptions, they are looking more to the idea that they are respected and is not adored. Unless, words have been spoken amd actions confirmed the words, that something lasting and concrete is going on.
4. Blessed are those with a pure heart, they are not manipulated and driven with emotions only but of wisdom and commitment.
5. Blessed are those with a pure heart, they are not jealous and bitter.
(Jealous and bitter, then pray for a pure heart.)
6. Blessed are the merciful for they will find more admirers.
7. Blessed are those who work for peace, they will find themselves someone worth fighting for.
8. Blessed are those who seek and hunger for justice, they are the dating people who have purpose for marriage and family life.
9. Blessed are those who remain pure in body and spirit until they have said their vows in marriage for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. (Let’s fight for that first night, sisters. Let’s remain pure through prayers and service. The Lord who is the first man in the aisle deserves our purity. )
10. Blessed are those who seek marriage according to God’s plan for theirs is a happy, lasting and fruitful life of marriage.

I pray that you also apply The Beautitudes into your dating life and let us learn from the single Jesus.

Love and Beauty,

B.

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I joined a new company last March. After 3 months, I was transferred to a new location, physical location, that is. While fixing and installing my stuff in the new room, I can’t help but be sad a bit as I remembered I will not be working beside people who speak English as their speaking language, who through that 3 months I have become closed with. As I sniffed gently alone, I didn’t realise that my boss approached me. Gosh, was so embarrassed 😳 with my crying and we spoke. That’s a separate story to tell on what transpired with the conversation but on a hindsight.. That’s how I easily can get attached to people and their presence. Three months of everyday presence makes my heart home.
And I know I will find a home in this new area, too.
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“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:11-13

May the peace of Christ be with you!

It’s been two months of absence and there was without a day that I did not think of going back and writing back to my blog and to get in touch with my readers once again. I remember each one of readers during those days.

What have I been up to? I got a new job and this job changed my entire writing time and had no time to sit as I embarked on my new job and a part of that reason was spending an essential time to get to know new people in my life both in the workplace and personal.

At this point of time, I am shifting the path of my career and I hope to share the few steps I have taken on my next blog. This shift of career is also a decision to support my plans so I could have an ample time to write.

Today, I would like to share another journal entry which I thought is a way of sharing my heart sincerely and wholeheartedly.At that point of writing, I was very far from who I am today. Through the course of 12 years, the Lord allowed and helped, guided, strengthened me to gather flowers for Him and He still do until today.

On my next blog, “Lessons from the tall, dark and good-looking single straight guy”

Let there be peace in your heart today.

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Dec 28, 2007
Manila

Dear Father God (my beautiful Creator)

You did not create a waste out of me.

I will wait until the fulfillment of your promise. I will trust Your divine providence.

Father God, I renew my commitment to bring flowers to You, to bring you glory. (I visited the Adoration Chapel earlier and found it strange that there were no flowers. Until I heard in my heart that I will bring flowers. )

Save me, Father God. Give me the grace, to bring You glory to Your throne… Forever.

I saw my cellphone and it could be a powerful weapon. May you always remind me that when I allow myself to be used by You, I become potent and powerful.

Gratefully Yours,
Benia (PICC grounds)

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Thank you for sharing your time with me.

(Enclosed words are mine)

19 Sep 2017

Dear Journal,

In the quietness of working alone tonight, I finished the book of Steve Harvey. I remembered significant men that I dated. Gosh. Here are my learnings. Thanks, Steve Harvey!

1. Act like a man. Speak like a lady. Extra care for their ego. (Ok. Fine.)

2. Get some standards. They respect it. (I have a long list which one to drop, then?) [Scribbles.]
(A man who can marry in the Catholic church who loves and honors the Lord and loves and honors me completely. He must love me first.)

[Scribbles and tons of smileys.]

3. Let them know what you don’t want. (I will lessen this as I have promised the Lord. Be open that no one is perfect and that includes me, )

[Scribbles and tons of smileys.]

4. “We need to talk” scares them

(So, I will rephrase with “Can we just talk? Meaning I will do the talking and you will do the listening)

[Series of smileys]
5. Your time is your reward to them.

6. REWARD THEM IF THEY ARE WORTHY.

7. Ask them what they think about family, children when being asked to have a date.

8. Go back to number one.

After going through those points, it came to mind that those misses were a saving grace from damaging relationships.

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Thank you Lord for men 1, 2 and 3 and thank you for Your protection. I truly am grateful.

[Signed by me]

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Thank you for your kind reading and learning with me.

Catch my next blog. Would you?

TEN YEARS LATER..

19 Sep 2017

Dear Journal,

In the quietness of working alone tonight, I finished the book of Steve Harvey. I remembered men that I dated. Gosh, enough of misses. Here are my learnings. Thanks, Steve Harvey!

1. Act like a man. Speak like a lady. Extra care for their ego. (I wonder how to tell them “You are wrong”?)

2. Get some standards. They respect it. (I have a long list which one to drop, then?) [Scribbles.]
(A man who can marry in the church who loves and honors the Lord and loves and honors me completely. He must love me first.)

3. Let them know what you don’t want. (I will lessen this, Lord, as I have promised You. Be open that no one is perfect and that includes me,)

4. “We need to talk” scares them (So, rephrased with “Can we just talk? Meaning I will do the talking and you will do the listening)

[Laughing faces. Scribbles.]

5. Your time is your reward to them.
6. REWARD THEM IF THEY ARE WORTHY.

7. Ask them what they think about family, children when being asked to have a date.

8. Go back to number one.

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After going through those points, I really think that the Lord has really saved me from damaging relationships by those “misses”. Thank you Lord for man 1, 2 and 3 and thank you for Your protection.

Happy Valentine’s of last month ago. Lol.
Where were you last Valentine’s Day?
I had a great Valentíne’s day at work and spent a laughter-filled and meaningful dinner. Since then, I have been busy and has been missing writing blogs. But, there was never a day that I did not think of my readers. You are God’s best gift to me last year and only by your kindness that I have finally put that “blogger” role after my name.

In a nutshell, a lot of blessings have been happening in my life. I have a new exciting full-time job which is an exact answer to my prayers and will tell you more about it on my succeeding stories and sharings. But this time let me share the opportunity when I asked men, particularly leaders of the Catholic charismatic community of single people where I also serve, about what turns them off and what turns them in for pursuit for a single lady.

I think it’s the best time to take a peak on what kind of girl (sister) fills their minds, yes, on this month of women.

Listen to these, friends.

Meet the leader – guy from the East. He is a gentle and prayerful person who is sporty and is himself a gentle guy. His two reasons to fall for a lady are intelligence and gentle demeanor. While, childish girls make him run away from the war of romantic pursuit.

The second guy – leader is so from the heart of MRT stations. If you are in Singapore, you will know it’s Serangoon. His two biggest weaknesses are girls who love their families, brown – skinned, intelligent, simple, gentle and God-fearing. His biggest turn – off are girls who are loud.

The third leader is someone from the west. He got so comfortable with my question, I guess, because he is the closet among the three for we share many years of friendship, that he has a long list of what turns him into a hunter in the game of courtship.

His biggest turn – on is someone who can carry – on a great conversation whatever the topic is, from superficial to the serious and vice versa. He likes, too, girls who are gentle, soft spoken that she is comfortable to talk – to, kind – hearted to both strangers and loved – ones and to herself. She really is undoubtedly kind, pleasing and graceful, supportive, encouraging, fun-to-be-with, lovable and funny. He stressed the “fun-to-be-with”. Someone confident of herself that she can joke about herself, her weaknesses, not insecure, not necessarily intelligent but who loves learning and curious and willing to be better.
A big bonus is someone who cooks really well! His turn-offs are girls who are vain and selfish.
I am writing and sharing to girls not in an effort to fit to their “likes” but to know the inner qualities we can work on to catch the attention of someone who is pleasing to the Lord Himself.

I just hope we are winning someone’s attention and we are encouraging that person closer to the Lord, more than we are pulling them to us.

I had fun writing this. I hope you had fun reading this, too.

Please like and share, out of your kindness. God bless!



Of two years ago, I did a part – time work at SMRT. The task was to count the passengers queueing but are not able to board the train.

Counting begins once the MRT door opens. The idea was all who are waiting should be able to board the train, thus, that makes a “zero waiting time”. If the indicator, a passenger waiting at the platform, is unable to board in two consecutive arrivals of trains, an empty train should be sent to the platform! (Yes that’s how ideal  they want the system to go! ) 

The MRT door will be opened for boarding for only 120 seconds.

And during that 120 seconds, this is when actions happened. All passengers would try to catch the ride and not to miss that chance to get boarded. Some literally threw their bodies inside to catch the train while, others, would create movements to let the automated door sense movements thereby delaying closure of the door. 

What really striking was that people naturally didn’t want to miss the chance to get boarded.

Same is true even in real life. We don’t want to miss chance but in reality we missed our chances. A chance to tell someone you love him until you find him at funeral parlor cold with his eyes closed. A chance to ask forgiveness to someone whom you have hurt but have finally lost her trust. A chance to be just in time to catch the perfect sunset. A chance to be a great sister to a sick brother. A chance to love. An ocean of misses.

And that’s how the closure of MRT door speaks to me, every single time I count passengers.

The reality of closed doors. The reality that not everyone will make it right the first time.

But if we look at the big picture, the story of getting boarded does not end there! When a passenger missed that chance to board the train at the platform, there is a new train that is planned to arrive in the next four minutes during peak hours of the day and two minutes in between during lunch hours. That passenger who missed the train only has to wait to catch the ride and reach his intended destiny.

In real life, there is a thing that is called as second chances.

The Lord reminds us that He has second chances in store for us by sending His forgiveness to our iniquities and richly giving us a new clean slate. Do we deserve it? I believe we don’t but He loves us beyond our wildest reasoning that He does not want to lose eternity, so, He richly, ever readily willing to forgive us and render us a great new train of chances.

In Him there is an ocean of compassion. In His compassion, there are second chances, chances to change our ways, chances to recover, chances to gain, chances to forgive, chances to move – on and make a fresh start.

Thank you for reading.