Bringing Flowers and What I Have Been Up-to (Dear God)

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May the peace of Christ be with you!

It’s been two months of absence and there was without a day that I did not think of going back and writing back to my blog and to get in touch with my readers once again. I remember each one of readers during those days.

What have I been up to? I got a new job and this job changed my entire writing time and had no time to sit as I embarked on my new job and a part of that reason was spending an essential time to get to know new people in my life both in the workplace and personal.

At this point of time, I am shifting the path of my career and I hope to share the few steps I have taken on my next blog. This shift of career is also a decision to support my plans so I could have an ample time to write.

Today, I would like to share another journal entry which I thought is a way of sharing my heart sincerely and wholeheartedly.At that point of writing, I was very far from who I am today. Through the course of 12 years, the Lord allowed and helped, guided, strengthened me to gather flowers for Him and He still do until today.

On my next blog, “Lessons from the tall, dark and good-looking single straight guy”

Let there be peace in your heart today.

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Dec 28, 2007
Manila

Dear Father God (my beautiful Creator)

You did not create a waste out of me.

I will wait until the fulfillment of your promise. I will trust Your divine providence.

Father God, I renew my commitment to bring flowers to You, to bring you glory. (I visited the Adoration Chapel earlier and found it strange that there were no flowers. Until I heard in my heart that I will bring flowers. )

Save me, Father God. Give me the grace, to bring You glory to Your throne… Forever.

I saw my cellphone and it could be a powerful weapon. May you always remind me that when I allow myself to be used by You, I become potent and powerful.

Gratefully Yours,
Benia (PICC grounds)

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Thank you for sharing your time with me.

God Protected Me (Dating Learnings to become Mrs Always Right One Day)

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TEN YEARS LATER..

19 Sep 2017

Dear Journal,

In the quietness of working alone tonight, I finished the book of Steve Harvey. I remembered men that I dated. Gosh, enough of misses. Here are my learnings. Thanks, Steve Harvey!

1. Act like a man. Speak like a lady. Extra care for their ego. (I wonder how to tell them “You are wrong”?)

2. Get some standards. They respect it. (I have a long list which one to drop, then?) [Scribbles.]
(A man who can marry in the church who loves and honors the Lord and loves and honors me completely. He must love me first.)

3. Let them know what you don’t want. (I will lessen this, Lord, as I have promised You. Be open that no one is perfect and that includes me,)

4. “We need to talk” scares them (So, rephrased with “Can we just talk? Meaning I will do the talking and you will do the listening)

[Laughing faces. Scribbles.]

5. Your time is your reward to them.
6. REWARD THEM IF THEY ARE WORTHY.

7. Ask them what they think about family, children when being asked to have a date.

8. Go back to number one.

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After going through those points, I really think that the Lord has really saved me from damaging relationships by those “misses”. Thank you Lord for man 1, 2 and 3 and thank you for Your protection.

Outrageous Lessons to My Heart (Dating and Learning to Become Mrs Always Right)

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(Enclosed words are mine)

19 Sep 2017

Dear Journal,

In the quietness of working alone tonight, I finished the book of Steve Harvey. I remembered significant men that I dated. Gosh. Here are my learnings. Thanks, Steve Harvey!

1. Act like a man. Speak like a lady. Extra care for their ego. (Ok. Fine.)

2. Get some standards. They respect it. (I have a long list which one to drop, then?) [Scribbles.]
(A man who can marry in the Catholic church who loves and honors the Lord and loves and honors me completely. He must love me first.)

[Scribbles and tons of smileys.]

3. Let them know what you don’t want. (I will lessen this as I have promised the Lord. Be open that no one is perfect and that includes me, )

[Scribbles and tons of smileys.]

4. “We need to talk” scares them

(So, I will rephrase with “Can we just talk? Meaning I will do the talking and you will do the listening)

[Series of smileys]
5. Your time is your reward to them.

6. REWARD THEM IF THEY ARE WORTHY.

7. Ask them what they think about family, children when being asked to have a date.

8. Go back to number one.

After going through those points, it came to mind that those misses were a saving grace from damaging relationships.

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Thank you Lord for men 1, 2 and 3 and thank you for Your protection. I truly am grateful.

[Signed by me]

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Thank you for your kind reading and learning with me.

Catch my next blog. Would you?

The Leaders’ Choice of Ladies (Single Men – Leaders Describe their Kind of Girls)

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Happy Valentine’s of last month ago. Lol.
Where were you last Valentine’s Day?
I had a great Valentíne’s day at work and spent a laughter-filled and meaningful dinner. Since then, I have been busy and has been missing writing blogs. But, there was never a day that I did not think of my readers. You are God’s best gift to me last year and only by your kindness that I have finally put that “blogger” role after my name.

In a nutshell, a lot of blessings have been happening in my life. I have a new exciting full-time job which is an exact answer to my prayers and will tell you more about it on my succeeding stories and sharings. But this time let me share the opportunity when I asked men, particularly leaders of the Catholic charismatic community of single people where I also serve, about what turns them off and what turns them in for pursuit for a single lady.

I think it’s the best time to take a peak on what kind of girl (sister) fills their minds, yes, on this month of women.

Listen to these, friends.

Meet the leader – guy from the East. He is a gentle and prayerful person who is sporty and is himself a gentle guy. His two reasons to fall for a lady are intelligence and gentle demeanor. While, childish girls make him run away from the war of romantic pursuit.

The second guy – leader is so from the heart of MRT stations. If you are in Singapore, you will know it’s Serangoon. His two biggest weaknesses are girls who love their families, brown – skinned, intelligent, simple, gentle and God-fearing. His biggest turn – off are girls who are loud.

The third leader is someone from the west. He got so comfortable with my question, I guess, because he is the closet among the three for we share many years of friendship, that he has a long list of what turns him into a hunter in the game of courtship.

His biggest turn – on is someone who can carry – on a great conversation whatever the topic is, from superficial to the serious and vice versa. He likes, too, girls who are gentle, soft spoken that she is comfortable to talk – to, kind – hearted to both strangers and loved – ones and to herself. She really is undoubtedly kind, pleasing and graceful, supportive, encouraging, fun-to-be-with, lovable and funny. He stressed the “fun-to-be-with”. Someone confident of herself that she can joke about herself, her weaknesses, not insecure, not necessarily intelligent but who loves learning and curious and willing to be better.
A big bonus is someone who cooks really well! His turn-offs are girls who are vain and selfish.
I am writing and sharing to girls not in an effort to fit to their “likes” but to know the inner qualities we can work on to catch the attention of someone who is pleasing to the Lord Himself.

I just hope we are winning someone’s attention and we are encouraging that person closer to the Lord, more than we are pulling them to us.

I had fun writing this. I hope you had fun reading this, too.

Please like and share, out of your kindness. God bless!

I Map – Out A Five Year- Life Plan (Christ, The King, The Deliverer and Liveloud Concert)

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I mapped – out a 5-year plan for my life yesterday morning. Yes, I dared to plan my life for the next 5 years, carefully incorporating what I have learned in my Project Management program and after saying prayers for a year for guidance for a new mission. No, please don’t be under the impression that I have achieved everything that I have planned for last years. Sometimes, I feel that I am only good at life’s planning but execution is a class where I’m still a student and unceasingly trying my best not to remain a student.

Mapping – Out

I wrote Psalm 23 at the top of it as it was my guiding verse since the time I felt the Lord is preparing for something. Psalm 23 is about the Good Shepherd. I did not forget the set of values as a guiding ruler as wild planning can happen and drives a planner to desire the world but losing the self in the process.

As this is my first time to draw – out a five- year plan, I had to set the bigger picture but at the end asking myself what is the bigger picture. I felt it was the height of adulting calling for a mixture of fear and excitement. One thing I realized though, that as I plan through the years, fear is increasingly knocking at my heart harder each year. I truly used to be a dare-devil in my planning in earlier years, as early as university days, where I enjoyed bigtime whenever I ticked what I have accomplished. But through the years, I have found myself fearing my own blames whenever I didn’t get to do what I have planned to do.

The Fearless of Youth That I Needed
(The Lord Provided)

During the evening, I attended the first Liveloud Concert in Singapore. Liveloud is a Catholic Worship Band that has been singing the songs of the Charismatic community I belong to for the last 17 years. In one segment, the sign of Chi Rho was flashed. The lead worshipper explained that this is the secret code of the earlier Christians to tell fellow Christians that they are home and they have arrived in a refuge, as earlier Christians were persecuted. That sign is very familiar to me. (Not that I lived 2000 years ago. Lol. ) The sign of Chi Rho is the “rod” I saw from Bishops and the Pope, the Shepherds for the Catholic faith. The Good Shepherd is Psalm 23, the verse I wrote on my five year – plan earlier that day. Is it just a coincidence? Maybe, not. The moment Chi Rho sign was flashed, it occurred to me as “No Prisoner”. That thought reverberated in my mind while we continued to worship. “No Prisoner”.

When I got home, it dawn on me, that for “No Prisoner” to happen there is freedom. Freedom from fear, freedom from the yoke of slavery that burdened a prisoner.

Is this sign speaking to my plan?
Have I been drawing out a plan which based on fear?
Then, let there be freedom! Call the deliverer, Christ the King.

This morning I took that as a sign to declare and plan out what I really want to happen in my life – 5 years down the road of life. Let there be no fear to work on my desires which Christ, the Lord God has placed in my heart, today on this Feast of Christ the King, the Deliverer.

As I put out a new plan and pasted on my wall. I, too, signed it with Chi Rho. No prisoner.

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