A Love Letter

Dear Young Lady,
I have to take it here because I know you will get to read this. And I know that you will know that this is for you.

I want to let you know that we are here for you. You never were and never will be alone because we have always been here for you.

I am writing to make you remember your great dreams and all your achievements you have worked hard all through these years. Please do not give – up on those. Those dreams are counting on you to be fulfilled by you, because no other person in this world was created to fulfill those but only you.

Lies might be bombarding your young mind these days but take heart. One day, truth will be with us and that truth will be vindicated through justice. Just keep doing what you do best – that is to study and persevere and soon you will reap the fruit of your hardwork.

And if lies are just too hard to bear and words are not coming out from your lips, remember what you have been told before, the Man at the Cross inside the church, He can hear you even if you do not speak. You can always talk to Him and He will help you clear you thoughts, to gather your courage and restore your joy. He will guide you fulfill your dreams, after all, it is Him who placed those dreams in your heart.

You are in our prayers. Stay with good influence, kids who encourage and inspire you to keep doing your best with honesty.

That last name is built upon hardwork, integrity, honesty, music, simplicity and faith by our forefathers. No event, no name-calling can rob – off those virtues from that last name. We shall carry our shared last name with holy pride, with the mercy of a good God.

You know that you are loved and let me remind you with that again – we love you.

Laban lang tayo. (Let’s keep on fighting.)


Translating Beatitudes Into Praying and Dating Life (Learning from Single Jesus)

Yesterday, the gospel was about The Beatitudes spoken by Jesus Himself. The Beatitudes has gripped my heart in many ways and in many years that caused me to stop, capture my heart and caused me to change, simply because to me, it means sacrifices and dying to oneself.

As I encountered The Beautitudes yesterday, again, I asked the Holy Spirit to place it in my single, searching and (hopefully soon) dating life. This morning, while cooking for lunch of my niece, the beautiful word went to heart as the aroma of my simple dish comes to life. Here are my reflections out from my own experiences and learnings:

1. A trusting heart is a patient heart.
So, develop faith to learn to trust and trust results to patience. And patience is a fertile soil for a loving relationship.
2. Gentle words come from a gentle spirit and a gentle spirit does not control but leads.
I am smiling while a write this, while I remember all men who are gentle and lead. Gentleness leads but wickedness confuses.
3. A non-assuming heart is a humble heart. When sisters don’t give – in to the lure to create presumptions, they are looking more to the idea that they are respected and is not adored. Unless, words have been spoken amd actions confirmed the words, that something lasting and concrete is going on.
4. Blessed are those with a pure heart, they are not manipulated and driven with emotions only but of wisdom and commitment.
5. Blessed are those with a pure heart, they are not jealous and bitter.
(Jealous and bitter, then pray for a pure heart.)
6. Blessed are the merciful for they will find more admirers.
7. Blessed are those who work for peace, they will find themselves someone worth fighting for.
8. Blessed are those who seek and hunger for justice, they are the dating people who have purpose for marriage and family life.
9. Blessed are those who remain pure in body and spirit until they have said their vows in marriage for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. (Let’s fight for that first night, sisters. Let’s remain pure through prayers and service. The Lord who is the first man in the aisle deserves our purity. )
10. Blessed are those who seek marriage according to God’s plan for theirs is a happy, lasting and fruitful life of marriage.

I pray that you also apply The Beautitudes into your dating life and let us learn from the single Jesus.

Love and Beauty,


A New Office

I joined a new company last March. After 3 months, I was transferred to a new location, physical location, that is. While fixing and installing my stuff in the new room, I can’t help but be sad a bit as I remembered I will not be working beside people who speak English as their speaking language, who through that 3 months I have become closed with. As I sniffed gently alone, I didn’t realise that my boss approached me. Gosh, was so embarrassed 😳 with my crying and we spoke. That’s a separate story to tell on what transpired with the conversation but on a hindsight.. That’s how I easily can get attached to people and their presence. Three months of everyday presence makes my heart home.
And I know I will find a home in this new area, too.
“I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances. I know what it is to be in need, and I know what it is to have plenty. I have learned the secret of being content in any and every situation, whether well fed or hungry, whether living in plenty or in want. I can do all this through him who gives me strength.” Philippians 4:11-13

Bringing Flowers and What I Have Been Up-to (Dear God)

May the peace of Christ be with you!

It’s been two months of absence and there was without a day that I did not think of going back and writing back to my blog and to get in touch with my readers once again. I remember each one of readers during those days.

What have I been up to? I got a new job and this job changed my entire writing time and had no time to sit as I embarked on my new job and a part of that reason was spending an essential time to get to know new people in my life both in the workplace and personal.

At this point of time, I am shifting the path of my career and I hope to share the few steps I have taken on my next blog. This shift of career is also a decision to support my plans so I could have an ample time to write.

Today, I would like to share another journal entry which I thought is a way of sharing my heart sincerely and wholeheartedly.At that point of writing, I was very far from who I am today. Through the course of 12 years, the Lord allowed and helped, guided, strengthened me to gather flowers for Him and He still do until today.

On my next blog, “Lessons from the tall, dark and good-looking single straight guy”

Let there be peace in your heart today.


Dec 28, 2007

Dear Father God (my beautiful Creator)

You did not create a waste out of me.

I will wait until the fulfillment of your promise. I will trust Your divine providence.

Father God, I renew my commitment to bring flowers to You, to bring you glory. (I visited the Adoration Chapel earlier and found it strange that there were no flowers. Until I heard in my heart that I will bring flowers. )

Save me, Father God. Give me the grace, to bring You glory to Your throne… Forever.

I saw my cellphone and it could be a powerful weapon. May you always remind me that when I allow myself to be used by You, I become potent and powerful.

Gratefully Yours,
Benia (PICC grounds)


Thank you for sharing your time with me.

Outrageous Lessons to My Heart (Dating and Learning to Become Mrs Always Right)

(Enclosed words are mine)

19 Sep 2017

Dear Journal,

In the quietness of working alone tonight, I finished the book of Steve Harvey. I remembered significant men that I dated. Gosh. Here are my learnings. Thanks, Steve Harvey!

1. Act like a man. Speak like a lady. Extra care for their ego. (Ok. Fine.)

2. Get some standards. They respect it. (I have a long list which one to drop, then?) [Scribbles.]
(A man who can marry in the Catholic church who loves and honors the Lord and loves and honors me completely. He must love me first.)

[Scribbles and tons of smileys.]

3. Let them know what you don’t want. (I will lessen this as I have promised the Lord. Be open that no one is perfect and that includes me, )

[Scribbles and tons of smileys.]

4. “We need to talk” scares them

(So, I will rephrase with “Can we just talk? Meaning I will do the talking and you will do the listening)

[Series of smileys]
5. Your time is your reward to them.


7. Ask them what they think about family, children when being asked to have a date.

8. Go back to number one.

After going through those points, it came to mind that those misses were a saving grace from damaging relationships.


Thank you Lord for men 1, 2 and 3 and thank you for Your protection. I truly am grateful.

[Signed by me]


Thank you for your kind reading and learning with me.

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