You Will Be Chosen (Learning to Clap For the Winner During Times of Rejection)

In my lifetime, I have lost count of the number of times that I was not chosen for areas that I have expressed my desire and displayed my efforts to be chosen. This had happened in the areas of my career, personal life, dating and even in friendship, in small and big decisions of others that resulted to a feeling of rejection.

While the world claps for the one that was chosen, there is always someone else from the opposite side of the coin, the one that was not chosen.

While, this happens, there is a big temptation to ask “Why not me?”

Just like any chemical compound where each has it’s own identity, no one is an exact replica of one person.

Each one of us is uniquely different from another person and if a person was chosen for a role and there is no other person like that person, the question “Why not me?” is actually invalid.

But if this temptation to ask “Why not me?” occurs, why not change that question with “Why not now?”

Because the question “Why not now?” is more of an active question than a paralysing question.

As I grow to be more “adultly” each year, I have realized that time is an ingredient of success that is learned by natural process. By considering time in the process of selection and success, preparation becomes crucial. I have read the book “How Luck Happens” and my main take away point in that is Luck happens to the the prepared and focused and preparation and focus is equivalent to time.

“Why not now?” means you need to know a lot more. “Why not now?” means you have to practise more. “Why not now?” means you have to know more of yourself. “Why not now?” means you have to know more about you dreams or skills… Or whatever it takes.

For where I am now in my life and what I have seen and transpired to people around me, success, fulfillment of dreams happens not based on the question “Why not me?” but “Why not now?”

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The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in Him, and He helps me.

Psalm 28:7

Keep on rowing, knowing that it is a privilege to work with God – and a blessing to be helped by Him – Darlene Sala.

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Thank you, profoundly.

Love and Beauty,

B

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(First of Two Parts)
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When God said “Fear not for I am with you, Do not be dismayed for I am Your God, I am holding You with my victorious right hand” He is referring for us to be courageous, to be strong. Because there will be difficulties, we are living in a fallen world. However, we have a Helper and in that strength, we will find joy!

Our hurts, rejections and failures will only make sense if we learn from them.

The mercy of God will come through lessons, too. He counsels us with His gentle staff.

Otherwise, these will not serve us good and we will miss living life to the fullest if we don’t risk with possibilities of pain, rejections and failures. Generally, I call them heartbreak.

Today, I want to recall and identify lessons I gained from ex – managers, ex-group leaders, ex – household members, ex – interviewers, ex – parish priests and ex – strangers and maybe, ex – crushes, ex – service partners and ex – boyfriend (Yes, he is only one).

10. πŸ’– It was my last round of interview and I can feel so closed to signing the job offer. Then, my current boss called me and spent time at the phone. In the end, I came late. I did not get the job offer.

Lesson, learn to say “no” right away if the number one priority is compromised.

9. πŸ’– Set a daily priority. Huge priorities in life can be overwhelming so, set daily priorities.

8. πŸ’– Stick to your defined priorities. At all cost.

7. πŸ’– I have been hearing, “He is paasa. ” (He makes girls build false – hopes around him.)

Lesson: Don’t ignore. There is, somehow, a truth in it.

6. πŸ’– Sisters have in their DNA to be pursued. They have an innate craving for it. A lady might say, I’m from the newest generation where men and women can do the same thing. Sister, that’s not true. You might do the pursuing now, but sooner or later, doubt will be knocking at the door. You will DEMAND, for an affirmation.

Lesson: Sister, allow your DNA to speak, be pursued. Be someone worth the pursuit.

5. πŸ’– Cheaters have signs. Do not ignore the first time the sign appears.

4. πŸ’– It takes character to say “I am sorry.” to someone who says to you “I got hurt by your words.” For instances like these, no explanation is needed why the other person got hurt. The truth that the other person got hurt then, “sorry” is much needed from the offender.

3. πŸ’– If cheaters have signs all the more the MAN who is worthy of your time, your attention, your care, your love and your trust. The signs will be set by your mind with your heart.

2. πŸ’– The one who wins never quits. The one who quits never win. It will only take time and your being to reach your dream.
Always remember that even God did not quit when Adam, His first man fell into disobedience in the Garden of Eve. He has to plan and thereby, incorporating “TIME” to fulfill it.

1. πŸ’– If you see him/her with someone new, if the unexpected sighting hurts, in spirit and in truth, then, comfort your heart. Avoid them. Pray for them.

It is my hope and in my prayers that you find lessons from your ex-periences today.

I will leave a song for you today.

🎢The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases. His mercy has never come to an end. They are new every morning. New every morning. Great is Thy faithfulness. 🎢

For all of these O Lord, I praise You and I thank You. Let me find wisdom in my experiences. Amen.

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Thank you for sharing your time. It is truly appreciated.

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Thank you, Lord, for I can move my fingers making me able to use the keyboard.
When at that time when I just got out of the operating room, I can not move my entire body, not even my toes.
Thank you, Lord, for I can stand on my back and making me able to take a bath myself.
When at that time during the recovery, due to a foot-length wound at my back, it was the hospital aid who had to turn my body and bathed me.
Thank You, Lord, for the gift of night shift work, for I am awake and can do things freely while the rest of the world is sleeping at my zone.
Thank You, Lord, for I will come back to home tired after a day filled of completed tasks, sometimes overwhelmingly difficult tasks to be completed in a day.
When at that time, I was waiting for call-back calls from employers that I applied to.
Thank You, Lord, for reminders from my mother who constantly bugged me with calls and messages to come home early and eat my meals on time. When others long for presence of parents in their daily lives.
Thank You, Lord, for this single life, for I have freedom to do things relying on my self – made decisions. When others missed to see the gifts of freedom and envy with misery those romantic couples.
Thank You, Lord, for Your presence in every single moment of my life.
I look back today and You, Oh Lord has never ever abandoned me. You walked me through the valley of near death, the uphill of great achievement, the downhill of rejections and failures, the curves of sinful life leading me to the narrow road of righteous life.
Thank You, Lord, for your company.
May I always recognize Your big hand holding my lithe fragile hand.
Amen.

Thank you for reading.

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