Today’s first reading (Ephesians 5:21-23) reminded me on one of the roles of a wife, that is to submit to her husband.
While I can only guess for the role of a wife, because of this God’s design, a woman who desires to be married and raise a family should learn the holy role of submission to the headship of a man.

However, while some women are still learning, please bear with her, Bro.

There are some women who openly expressed their thoughts not to disrespect neither to challenge, nor to show who is mightier and wiser, but, it is has been only in their ways for so long to express and take part in whatever course of action that will be taken.

Although, I don’t know exactly when they are going to perfect the role of submission, but I am sure the wife has to make it happen and she can make it happen.

And while she makes it happen, please bear with her, Bro.

Ridicule and wrong assumption that she is hard to bear is the least and last thing that a work-in-progress sister (woman/wife) wants to hear. With all her pure intentions to be helpmate and for the greater good of the church or the community in her mind are the reasons why she is expressing and is braving the risk to be tagged as a “difficult woman”.

It is so painful to be told that you are difficult woman when the only thing in your mind is to be a helpmate.

I believe it will not come naturally for a woman who has been shaped in all her life to express and decide for herself to place herself under someone’s headship. I believe a greater power is needed. A greater power from the Lord and from the man that she is submitting herself to that will make her able to submit well.

And while she learns, please bear with her, Bro.

Thank you for reading.

God bless.
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Dear Father God,

We surrender our desire to You.
Please bless all the women You have created after Your wisdom and ways. Please touch their hearts to be helpmates. Please send to them men to their lives who will help them to fulfill this holy role as a submitting wives / sisters / women.

Amen.

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As someone who has been praying for a lifetime partner, I have experienced occasions of scam in the past and knowing friends who experienced the same.

Sadly, but, in the real world there are people who take advantage insincerely and ruthlessly evil of that holy desire of finding a spouse and raising a family. Most of the time, since they are left unidentified, they continue to hurt the lives of single and looking people not only emotionally but more often, financially.

I personally see scammers as cruel people. Since they don’t personally see the effects of what they have done to their victims, they can ignore outrightly the small voice of conscience in their spirits.

Quite scary for pure intention of loving and be loved by someone who loves you and loves you in return. But, like any other quests in our lives, there are dangers hiding along the way to victory.

The objective of this blog is not to add more “cheese” to that search but open our eyes and minds to the reality of the world where the future spouse also lives.

Here are few signs of this kind of scam:

1. He falls in love with you head over heels in no time.

I came to get in contact with a scammer through a Catholic dating site. He was quick in writing love letters that can sweep off my feet every night and can even quote of bible verses in professing his (scam) love for me.

2. His questioning or kind of getting to know you-ways are more of into interrogation of your financial capabilities.
Few of those questions are towards to:
A. Job position
B. Your travels
C. Your closeness with your family and friends

That person who was a scam kept on telling me that I don’t share with friends about my communication with him for his reason was that girl friends may get “jealous” of what we have. However, at that time, I was already actively serving and part of the Catholic Church community for singles and I trusted my prayer group leader so well that I shared with her even the first time that this person called me. So, by the time that this person was asking me for money, my prayer group leader had her suspicions confirmed.

3. I have experienced scam in two occasions and for both occasions, the perpetrators always fall into sickness.

Any lady who is blinded by his “unproven” love will be overpowered by her emotion to help financially even unreasonably.

4. Their love is conditional.

I have a friend who did not know that her helper was communicating with someone from the internet and she only got to know it when the helper frantically cried. The helper was told by her “lover” that he will send their engagement ring after the helper sends the money for the finishing touches of the house he was building for them and was provided with a link where the helper can track where the engagement ring is.

What was horrifying that the minute the helper completed the online and quick remittance, the link was gone.

5. His/ her details are not specific.

I told a friend who then has already started engaging online with a man who sent her a message through the Catholic dating site where my friend joined, to ask this man to provide her the company name and the reception number where this man works and that my friend will call that reception number to reach him. My friend was able to reach him which gave her a confidence to carry on the online conversation.

Though, my examples are experiences gained in the online dating world, these guides can also be applied in the face-to-face meet ups or dating.

As proven best practice, although, we may be dependent and mature by our own assessment, as searching singles, it is still best to include our parents or family members and a trusted friend in every step that we do in finding the lifetime partner.

As waiting and looking individuals, let us be like as wise as serpents and as gentle as doves. For surely, whoever has the pure intention with seeking heart for the right guidance, the Lord will lead.
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Prayers
It is in my prayers to whoever is reading this and is sincerely praying for a spouse that he/she finds him/ today without going through the harm caused by scams. Amen.

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For women who have additional tips which can help women in their online search, please comment below.

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