Report says that only 2% of the entire population of the wholewide world has the chance to keep their childhood friends until they reach their death beds. I am one of that 2%. And that is one of my greatest blessings.

I lost Grace, my friend since the time I can not read nor write, last year after a 5-year battle with breast cancer. She was both a source of influence and surprises to me. She even in her last moments did not fail to surprise me. During the last night of the wake, I asked her brothers to take a nap while I volunteered to keep watch through out the early morning.

Before I continue my story, let me share a another story first.
In my seventeen years of membership of the charismatic community, my first ever ministry that I joined was to pray for the dead family members of fellow singles. So, almost every week during the first two years, I had free meals because of wake events where we prayed and sung “Till the end of my days..” One of my leaders even said that if ever we were paid, then, we could have earned at least our transport allowance for the whole month because our group was always called for that kind of event.

But, it was far more different and I must say, difficult for Grace’s time. When I was praying the Prayer for the Dead and singing “Till the end of my days, Oh Lord. I will bless Your name. Sing You praise. Give You thanks. All my days…” in a soft voice, I was wholeheartedly accepting the end of our friendship.
After praying, I placed my phone on a table to take a selfie and her coffin at the background. I set the timer to 5 seconds but before it reached 5, I thought I heard someone called “Benia”. There was no one else in the room and I know that was Grace sending her surprise, maybe her last surprise and accepting wholeheartedly the end of our friendship.

The last time that I visited her, she promised that we will meet outside and not anymore in her house. While her coffin was lowered to the ground, I realized that she kept her promise.

And life continues.

2019 Plans and A New Grace, A New Bestfriend

On my 2019 plans, I did not write down a dream that has been in my annual plans, first time for many years. This year, I did not write, “To be a Bride.” Instead, I wrote a new dream, a new prayer, “Be blessed with a new Grace, another best friend.”
I know that there would be no one like Grace. Her memories will always have a special spot in my heart. But, I also know that it’s never late to find and keep a new grace, a new best friend. A best friend who stays and decides to stay a friend despite all odds. A best friend who brings your soul closer to the Lord. A bestfriend who enriches your life and makes life easier and happier to live in. A best friend who is also a God’s gift.
So, this year I am not praying for a spouse for the first time in many years but I am praying for a new bestfriend.
Or, who knows the Lord will send me a bachelor version of Grace.
❤️

Dear Lord, thank You for your endless grace. I received one through Grace. Please hug Grace today for me. I know if she was to tell me a new dream, she would tell me this again, “Benia, find a new bestfriend, someone like me but unlike me in many ways. Someone, maybe who can also be your spouse.”

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While I wait for my rescheduled flight (I’m so used to these kind of changes every Christmas flight that I forgot how to complain and just now, I smiled and teasingly told the neatly hair-tied airline staff, “Don’t I get to have at least a free burger for this?”) I remembered one new year’s eve, a neighbor who was a palm reading enthusiast told me her prediction. I was a little girl then and not in school that I don’t know how to write even my own name yet. She was so amazed, I guess, that after she got my palm, she called my Mama. “Mrs Linda, something is with your child.” Before Mama arrived, our neighbor told me a revelation and those words were placed in my young mind and spoken straight to my believing heart, “Nene, great things are found in your palm. You will constantly fly and you will be victorious! Big stars and great – sized airplanes are written in your palms. ”
I hardly remember our neighbor’s name but those big words were spoken straight to my young believing heart from that time until now. “Great things are found in your palms.”
I don’t believe in palm reading but I believe that there is a great future for each one of us, that big stars are written in our names and humongous airplanes are drawn in our palm because we can soar high. We are able. We are free. Because, the great future ahead of us was planned right even before we existed, as a privilege.

As 2018 bids farewell, may we remember every person whether stranger, family, friend, colleague, leader or any human being who believes in our capacity to fulfill our dreams, to achieve and to soar.

As 2018 comes to a close, I thank the Lord for the gift of the combination of my passport and SG residency, the gift of courage for all my past hurdles in school, my guiding parents and all teachers who all believed, maybe, not even in my talents but only because the lines my palm tell them to believe in me.

Dear Lord, we claim today Your big and great plans for us from Your Mighty Big hands. Please help us fulfill those. Amen.

#GodhasbeengoodToMe
#tearyeyed
#thankyoufamily

Dear Sis B,
Shall I Date A Jobless Bachelor?

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Dear Sister,

May the peace of Christ be with you.

The fact that you are asking me this question tells me that you have second thoughts of seeing or spending time with this guy and financial means is something essential to you. I take your concern with high regard and deep respect. Since we believe that the husband and father is the main financial provider, they must have means to be source of income, ideally.

However, we now live in the age where wife and mothers of the family have full time works and share the financial obligation of the family with the husband or father.

As dating means preparation for the future family and the one you are dating takes the frame of a future spouse, may I now ask you, “What are your dreams and prayers for your future family?”

Should the Lord allow me to be married, I don’t wish to work for another employer and I wish to stay at home and build a source of income from home, an endeavour that would come only secondary to my household obligations. This means that I am counting and praying that in my future plans, the husband is the main provider. I think that is the reason why I have never dated a jobless guy. I never dated when I was still in school.

However, I don’t consider, too, that joblessness is the ultimate criteria for a bachelor NOT to be considered a “qualified” future spouse.

Here are few points you can consider:
1. Does he plan for his good future?

2. Does he act and persevere on his plans?

3. Do you agree on his plans?

Before you respond, please do carefully and prayerfully seek an answer. Ask him with exact words revealing to him your purpose. Please do not be scared to ask and ask with purity of heart. Based on married friends’ stories , this kind of questions encouraged a man with pure and noble intentions to be more intentional in building his finances and not scare him off away from getting himself committed. Again gentleness will send our purpose across.

Gentleness. Girl, It Looks Sassy On You

It is always something I tell to myself and female friends that at one point or two of courtship and even dating period that ladies should continue to be seeking answer and act like you an HR recruiter. After all, you are recruiting a lifetime legal partner.

I believe that when we pray for a spouse with courage (faith), confidence (hope) and God (love) then, we will be led to the right man who will love us, protect us and lead us to our Lord.

God bless.

Love and Beauty,
B

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