You Will Be Chosen (Learning to Clap For the Winner)

You Will Be Chosen (Learning to Clap For the Winner During Times of Rejection)

In my lifetime, I have lost count of the number of times that I was not chosen for areas that I have expressed my desire and displayed my efforts to be chosen. This had happened in the areas of my career, personal life, dating and even in friendship, in small and big decisions of others that resulted to a feeling of rejection.

While the world claps for the one that was chosen, there is always someone else from the opposite side of the coin, the one that was not chosen.

While, this happens, there is a big temptation to ask “Why not me?”

Just like any chemical compound where each has it’s own identity, no one is an exact replica of one person.

Each one of us is uniquely different from another person and if a person was chosen for a role and there is no other person like that person, the question “Why not me?” is actually invalid.

But if this temptation to ask “Why not me?” occurs, why not change that question with “Why not now?”

Because the question “Why not now?” is more of an active question than a paralysing question.

As I grow to be more “adultly” each year, I have realized that time is an ingredient of success that is learned by natural process. By considering time in the process of selection and success, preparation becomes crucial. I have read the book “How Luck Happens” and my main take away point in that is Luck happens to the the prepared and focused and preparation and focus is equivalent to time.

“Why not now?” means you need to know a lot more. “Why not now?” means you have to practise more. “Why not now?” means you have to know more of yourself. “Why not now?” means you have to know more about you dreams or skills… Or whatever it takes.

For where I am now in my life and what I have seen and transpired to people around me, success, fulfillment of dreams happens not based on the question “Why not me?” but “Why not now?”

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The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in Him, and He helps me.

Psalm 28:7

Keep on rowing, knowing that it is a privilege to work with God – and a blessing to be helped by Him – Darlene Sala.

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Love and Beauty,

B

My Prayers for Every Woman Today

1. May you find someone worth keeping and may you find that someone keeping you back.
2. May your eyes be opened to the truth and believe that truth will set you free.
3. May you find someone who recognises your light and takes care of your scar.
4. May you find true friends who can speak word of truth to you and can determine the time when to speak it.
5. May you find time to take care of yourself.
6. May you find reasons to protect yourself.
7. May you find ways to celebrate your giftedness.
8. May you draw your standards and create an invisible but felt line around it.
9. May you be drawn deeply into the image of the lady our Creator has planned for you.
10. May you find a lady smiling back at you when you look at the mirror.

All these I pray in the mighty name of Your son Jesus who lives with You together with the Holy Spirit. One God. Forever.

Hail Mary..

Saint Josemaria Escriva, pray for us.

Amen.

My Most Fulfilling Moment #Ministry

(Leading Prayer Group Meetings)

It was at that time when I said “Yes” to be a group prayer head in a Catholic charismatic community for singles. This Catholic charismatic community has small units of prayer group. This prayer group is called “Household” which is normally consists of 4-5 single ladies, so, that makes me a Household head.
Being friends mainly with girls is something very familiar for me, as growing up and during teen years, I was part of all girls big group of friends. During my first years as a young professional, I still was part of all ladies group in the company where I worked. We regularly went to night – outs wearing our Tok-Toks (our own secret code for high – heeled shoes because of the sound that it makes when we walk with it on). Basically, what I am saying here, I know generally how girls operate, unite, celebrate, love and fight together ever since I was young. Girl power, how ancient the concept may it sound, has always been in me… until I joined the Catholic community for singles .

As I write this, I can’t help but be filled once again with gratitude. This is the posture of my heart each time I get to remember my first few days as an S-F-C, of becoming, that is, Someone for Christ.

Heading the Household prayer group for sisters is also like leading a girl power group in fun and activities except that with this task, I am leading them to Christ and not to the “domination” (lol) of the world. Leading them to Christ means making myself available for them without any cost. Unlike the girl power friendship, this task required me sacrifices. So, I later replaced the term “task” to “service” and me not a “leader” but a “mother”, as I always associate sacrifices to motherhood.

During my first year as a Household head, I was faced with struggles to prepare the discussion topics, my parents’ house and foods.

The difficulty on preparing the discussion topic was not so much because my default topic was the scripture reading for the day, compared to preparing and clearing the food to be served. The latter task was more daunting for me. Food preparation required me time and other resources.

Burdened I may seemed with the differences of building friendship with new sisters (new members) in the community, however, just like in my all-girls friendship, I find joy and love whenever I am with them during household prayer meetings.

All my efforts are somewhat reciprocated specially whenever there was a well-attended household prayer meeting. But I enjoyed, too, even only a member shows up. It is a chance for a heart – to – heart talk.

So, after each and every prayer meeting when all the members are gone and I am left alone washing used glasses, plates, spoons and forks, clearing the table and floors. There in that last task that I find silence without the rush, but, a happy silence with the Lord. It is in this moment that my mind starts to process what just transpired in the prayer meeting. It is in this moment that I realize the Lord is making everything possible. It is in this moment that I say, “Thank You, Lord. Mission accomplished.” It is in this act of washing the dishes, clearing the table and rubbish bin that I find most fulfilling of becoming a head.

Matthew 20:16
So the last will be first, and the first will be last.


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