Chronicles of Benia


Dear Sis B “Going To Mass For A Date, How Should I Look?” Part 2



Dear Sister,

May the peace of Christ be with you.

I searched in the internet and found no general dress code during Catholic mass, but, only found this from the Catechism of the Catholic Church:

To prepare for worthy reception of this sacrament, the faithful should observe the fast required in their Church. Bodily demeanour (gestures, clothing) ought to convey the respect, solemnity, and joy of this moment when Christ becomes our guest – CCC 1387

So, check on the dress code required by the church you are going. Since you are going with a Non-Catholic man, you may inform him the recommended clothing for men by the parish. (Sister, take hint on this. If this man finds it himself what he is supposed to wear and expect in the mass, most likely he is interested in you. But this, just like other hints, is a not a guarantee, nonetheless should earn him a big point from you.)

Sharing here “What To Wear And What Not To Wear” from the Church of the Star of the Sea official website.


The greatest of beauty shines from inside out. Beautiful prayer partners.


That’s me right before going to mass at the bus stop right outside of St Teresa Church while raining heavily.

What To Wear

We should wear to Mass what we would wear if a King invited us to his home for a feast. That is, we should wear our best. Our best should never draw attention to ourselves but give the utmost respect to the King (and His family) of whom we are special guests.

What Not To Wear *

Immodest or revealing clothing is never acceptable.

For Women:

  • Any clothing that bares midriffs or cleavage.
  • Tight clothing meant to accentuate (to draw attention to) various body parts that God considers, and that we ought to consider, sacred.
  • Short skirts (above knee) or miniskirts
  • Shorts (capris are okay if they hit below the knee—but still discouraged)
  • Sleeveless tops (short sleeves are okay).

For Men:

  • Shorts (yes, even in the summer months)
  • Tank tops.

Dirty clothes are never acceptable.

An unkempt body is never acceptable (e.g., dirty hands or fingernails).

I see that you are a lady who always dresses modestly, in person and online. 🙂 But I will share it here, anyway.

Why is it Important to Dress Modestly at Mass?

Immodest dress distracts others and could cause them to sin in their thoughts, which is not why we are at Mass.

So, dressing modestly is not an issue to you, since this is your style.

The Not More Than Ten Minute -Make Up

Even if you are a beginner, limit your application of make-up to ten minutes. For me, it has two great advantages. First, You will save time and be early for mass. Second, You will avoid looking “overdone” or a worst a clown. Simplicity is a win.

I asked a pregnant friend who is a hair and make up artist for her thoughts. She dated one and only guy, a non – Catholic, who is now her husband. Here are her tips:

  1. Don’t go for a bright lippie. Go for neutrals.
  2. Pluck your eyebrows. Bushy eyebrows are for the likes of Anne Curtis. You are no Anne Curtis. (She agrees that great eyebrows bring life to a shy face.)
  3. Apply a concealer and regular powder foundation.
  4. Go for a soft blush.
  5. Put-on light mascara. Please say no to false eyelashes for this kind of event.

This is my personal tip, put-on a light scent. This is ages ago, I accidentally dropped my hanky and it is my habit that I scented my handkerchief though I only kept it in my bag. (I know all women do this.) This man that I went dinner with, got it and exclaimed “Ang bango ng panyo mo.” I only sprayed it with Bench Pink Cologne.

The Not More Than Ten Minute Hair-Dos

Sister, try to achieve the decent and clean look. The hairstyle that will make you feel confident and act natural is what you should bear in mind. Avoid coming with a dripping wet hair

You may be going to the mass with a man who likes you and you like in return for the first time but never ever forget the reason why you are coming to mass and that is for the Lord. You may know by now, what I always say, we are set to please one set of eyes and that is the eyes of our Lord. So, be in great look supremely to impress the Lord.

I’m sharing a photos of friend and myself on for a Sunday and I thought they look gorgeously Godly.

Here it is for now. Last part next week.

Love and Beauty,


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“Dear Sis B, My Works Are Not Appreciated”



Dear Sister,

May the peace of Christ be with you.

I once in that shoes and it does not feel better compared to that feeling of loss over a favorite pet. (I belong to the family of cat lovers that brings me to many circumstances of crying because of death of old cats or kittens). Whether you feel unappreciated over your hard works in the family, office, church service, it is terrible to carry such feelings. On top of that, most of us women would keep quiet and burden ourselves with self-doubts.

Just like the love language, appreciation can be expressed through any of these: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service or touch.

Sister, take clues on how this person receives appreciation because normally how we receive appreciation is how we send appreciation to others. (But for you sisters out there who are not receiving appreciation over their hard works in the office, make it known through proper course of performance evaluation.)


Although the needing for appreciation may be screaming within us for quiet a while and is valid, I encourage you to shift your focus with anticipation and great joy to the image of the appreciation of the Lord.

Some people may not see or remember our good works but the good news is the Lord does. He sees and remembers our good works.

In today’s first reading, “Therefore do not pronounce judgment before the time, before the Lord comes, who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart. Then every man will receive his commendation from God.” 1 Corinthian 4:5.



The Lord’s appreciation is much more massive and encompassing including the motive of the heart and His appreciation can’t be concealed by any force and that what matters the most.


Love and Beauty,

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