TEN YEARS LATER..

19 Sep 2017

Dear Journal,

In the quietness of working alone tonight, I finished the book of Steve Harvey. I remembered men that I dated. Gosh, enough of misses. Here are my learnings. Thanks, Steve Harvey!

1. Act like a man. Speak like a lady. Extra care for their ego. (I wonder how to tell them “You are wrong”?)

2. Get some standards. They respect it. (I have a long list which one to drop, then?) [Scribbles.]
(A man who can marry in the church who loves and honors the Lord and loves and honors me completely. He must love me first.)

3. Let them know what you don’t want. (I will lessen this, Lord, as I have promised You. Be open that no one is perfect and that includes me,)

4. “We need to talk” scares them (So, rephrased with “Can we just talk? Meaning I will do the talking and you will do the listening)

[Laughing faces. Scribbles.]

5. Your time is your reward to them.
6. REWARD THEM IF THEY ARE WORTHY.

7. Ask them what they think about family, children when being asked to have a date.

8. Go back to number one.

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After going through those points, I really think that the Lord has really saved me from damaging relationships by those “misses”. Thank you Lord for man 1, 2 and 3 and thank you for Your protection.

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19 Sep 2017

Dear Journal,

In the quietness of working alone tonight, I finished the book of Steve Harvey. I remembered significant men that I dated. Gosh. Here are my learnings. Thanks, Steve Harvey!

1. Act like a man. Speak like a lady. Extra care for their ego. (Ok. Fine.)

2. Get some standards. They respect it. (I have a long list which one to drop, then?) [Scribbles.]
(A man who can marry in the Catholic church who loves and honors the Lord and loves and honors me completely. He must love me first.)

[Scribbles and tons of smileys.]

3. Let them know what you don’t want. (I will lessen this as I have promised the Lord. Be open that no one is perfect and that includes me, )

[Scribbles and tons of smileys.]

4. “We need to talk” scares them

(So, I will rephrase with “Can we just talk? Meaning I will do the talking and you will do the listening)

[Series of smileys]
5. Your time is your reward to them.

6. REWARD THEM IF THEY ARE WORTHY.

7. Ask them what they think about family, children when being asked to have a date.

8. Go back to number one.

After going through those points, it came to mind that those misses were a saving grace from damaging relationships.

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Thank you Lord for men 1, 2 and 3 and thank you for Your protection. I truly am grateful.

[Signed by me]

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Thank you for your kind reading and learning with me.

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Dear Sis B,
Shall I Date A Jobless Bachelor?

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Dear Sister,

May the peace of Christ be with you.

The fact that you are asking me this question tells me that you have second thoughts of seeing or spending time with this guy and financial means is something essential to you. I take your concern with high regard and deep respect. Since we believe that the husband and father is the main financial provider, they must have means to be source of income, ideally.

However, we now live in the age where wife and mothers of the family have full time works and share the financial obligation of the family with the husband or father.

As dating means preparation for the future family and the one you are dating takes the frame of a future spouse, may I now ask you, “What are your dreams and prayers for your future family?”

Should the Lord allow me to be married, I don’t wish to work for another employer and I wish to stay at home and build a source of income from home, an endeavour that would come only secondary to my household obligations. This means that I am counting and praying that in my future plans, the husband is the main provider. I think that is the reason why I have never dated a jobless guy. I never dated when I was still in school.

However, I don’t consider, too, that joblessness is the ultimate criteria for a bachelor NOT to be considered a “qualified” future spouse.

Here are few points you can consider:
1. Does he plan for his good future?

2. Does he act and persevere on his plans?

3. Do you agree on his plans?

Before you respond, please do carefully and prayerfully seek an answer. Ask him with exact words revealing to him your purpose. Please do not be scared to ask and ask with purity of heart. Based on married friends’ stories , this kind of questions encouraged a man with pure and noble intentions to be more intentional in building his finances and not scare him off away from getting himself committed. Again gentleness will send our purpose across.

Gentleness. Girl, It Looks Sassy On You

It is always something I tell to myself and female friends that at one point or two of courtship and even dating period that ladies should continue to be seeking answer and act like you an HR recruiter. After all, you are recruiting a lifetime legal partner.

I believe that when we pray for a spouse with courage (faith), confidence (hope) and God (love) then, we will be led to the right man who will love us, protect us and lead us to our Lord.

God bless.

Love and Beauty,
B

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I Offered A Rosary For All My Readers
(One Year of Blogging)🎉🎉 Thank You, Lord.

Today, 04 Nov 2018, marks the first year of existence of my self – hosted website (www.thechroniclesofbenia.com) . I only shared the link six months later. I need to think and imagine in my mind first the consequences of putting my thoughts, mainly stories, reflections and prayers, to everyone’s eyes before I had the courage to share it. I was filled with fear but hope and joy to be able to share stories and lessons gained in journey with God outweighed the former.

First Year Anniversary

As I don’t have any prizes or gifts as my thanksgivig to you my readers, I decided to give you the best gift that I can offer. I offered a prayer of rosary for each one of you before the Mass today (04 November) at Church of Divine Mercy . It is also very timely that the today’s gospel is about the greatest commandment of loving God and loving our neighbors.

(Mark 12: 28-34)

Greatest Commandment

Here is my gratitude expressed through the Rosary of Glorious Mystery today.

Dear Lord,

You are the author and finisher of our faith. Our rock and strength.

I thank You for the gift of writing and readers. I remember all of them and even those whom I don’t know who are followers. (Thank You. ) I pray for all of them now, they are all Yours. Please give them perfect health of their bodies. Please grant them healing spiritually, mentally, emotionally and even financially. Please take over their minds whenever problems, challenges and doubts seem to be controlling their thoughts. Please send them Your peace and lit the fire of hope or joy in whatever manner they may translate it. It is my deepest prayer that You strengthen their faith as they journey along uphill and downhill of life.

I pray for their vocation that You will lead and guide them in fulfilling the vocation that You planned for them even before You created the foundations of the world. Their love for You guides them in making decision rightly and lovingly.

I thank You in advance for the countless victories that You will cause to happen in their lives.

I sealed this prayer with the intercession of Mother Mary.

Amen.

Thank you for reading. God bless.