“Dear Sis B, My Works Are Not Appreciated”


Dear Sister,

May the peace of Christ be with you.

I once in that shoes and it does not feel better compared to that feeling of loss over a favorite pet. (I belong to the family of cat lovers that brings me to many circumstances of crying because of death of old cats or kittens). Whether you feel unappreciated over your hard works in the family, office, church service, it is terrible to carry such feelings. On top of that, most of us women would keep quiet and burden ourselves with self-doubts.

Just like the love language, appreciation can be expressed through any of these: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service or touch.

Sister, take clues on how this person receives appreciation because normally how we receive appreciation is how we send appreciation to others. (But for you sisters out there who are not receiving appreciation over their hard works in the office, make it known through proper course of performance evaluation.)


Although the needing for appreciation may be screaming within us for quiet a while and is valid, I encourage you to shift your focus with anticipation and great joy to the image of the appreciation of the Lord.

Some people may not see or remember our good works but the good news is the Lord does. He sees and remembers our good works.

In today’s first reading, “Therefore do not pronounce judgment before the time, before the Lord comes, who will bring to light the things now hidden in darkness and will disclose the purposes of the heart. Then every man will receive his commendation from God.” 1 Corinthian 4:5.



The Lord’s appreciation is much more massive and encompassing including the motive of the heart and His appreciation can’t be concealed by any force and that what matters the most.


Love and Beauty,